TL;DR: Sometimes, “aiming high” can unintentionally set you up to fail. Setting the bar low and hitting it consistently can help you achieve more at a more realistic pace, and one you can sustain.
Mass media and social media show the extremes because that gets the most attention. On one platform, bad news makes the news. On the other, you get highlight reels and pictures from the lives of friends, family, and the people you follow. In both cases, you get the edited, minute versions of events, and miss the things that happen off-screen or behind-the-scenes. You only get the parts of the story they want you to see, not the whole picture.
The effect of regularly seeing highlight — or lowlight, as in the case of the news — reels creates a false impressions of how things are, and how things ‘should’ be. In the case of doing business, for example, you’re pushed to be on your top game all the time, and to do so you have to follow a certain formula, follow a set of actions, or go for the ‘right’ kind of exposure to succeed. Anything else wouldn’t be worth the effort, and also beneath you. Go big or go home.
And if you don’t make it big, it’s all on you — because “if these people did it, you should be able to.” Highlight reels, right? That’s why it can be so unnecessarily pressure-filled to work towards your goals. Comparison is too easy. There’s tons of how-to’s and guides on sale to show you the way to greatness — you have no excuse to fail (Hah!) Plus, if the nebulous ‘They’ did it, why can’t you? And when you can’t, the failures wears at you even more.
Have you ever thought that instead of flying high, you could go low and slow, and still accomplish what you want to do?
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